Thanks, Nate!
(Hmmm, I guess I don't need to wrap this myself.)
I assume "lively" is a euphemism for "overstocked".
Feel free to be blunt with me about things if necessary, I'm here to learn from all of you, and I'm not going to take offense at advice and comments.
I'm afraid my goby isn't hiding, though I haven't completely written him off yet. He isn't a shrimp goby, he's one of those tiny little ones with the red stripes that just perches on the rock. He did hide from the wrasse for the first two days in the tank, but he's been out on top of the rock for the past few weeks.
My ammonia and nitrite have always been 0. I didn't really even have much of a cycle with the tanks, since I started the 29 with well cured live rock, live sand (arag-alive or something), and partial water from our (at the time) going FO tank. When I restarted the 5.5 as a reef style tank I took water and sand from the then established 29. My nitrate has also been pretty much rock solid. Unfortunately it's been rock solid at 20 ppm.
I think I need to get refugia where I can put some macroalgae to export the nitrates. I was thinking of a CPR AquaFuge for the 29. I guess I'd have to DIY something for the 5.5 though. Does that sound like a reasonable plan for dealing with the nitrates?
The only snails I've had trouble with are the red turbos. The nassarius have been fine and like I said I think the one conch that didn't make it was done in by a hermit. He was minding his own business when the big blue-legged hermit started nosing around one morning. I moved the hermit a couple of times, but he kept coming back. When I returned that night the conch was but a shell of his former self. My suspicion is that he was shell-jacked by the hermit who then decided he didn't really like the new home. Maybe that's why he hasn't bothered the others. I should get a few bigger spare shells for these guys.
So, is 20 ppm nitrate a big problem? My understanding is that ideally it should be zero, but that 20 isn't really a problem. Am I mistaken?
The 29 has about 45 lbs of LR, 25 lbs of LS, and an AquaC Remora. The 5.5 has about 9 lbs of LR and 15 lbs of LS. I do one IO bucket (6+ gallons?) water change at least every week (about 5g for the 29, and 1g for the 5.5?). I had PH, alk, and CA tested at Skipton's today (thanks Ron) and the conclusion was that I've been a bit too cautious with my kalkwasser mix. I'll mix up a stronger batch today for this week.
And yes, it's a pretty sweet pad. It's fairly big, so that helps. I've been working at Harvard for over 15 years, so this is a perfect place for me and I'm not going anywhere. They may move when they finish school. The ex will probably have to succumb to family pressures and marry a nice Indian doctor or something soon.
Whatever. We'll be fine once I stop caring.
Anyway, thanks for the welcome and help!
--cn